How much time do you spend on Social Media? Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Etc.
You’d be surprised how quickly time adds up. Did you know that there are about 2 billion Facebook accounts currently and counting? Very active users spend a minimum of 20-30 minutes on their account each time they log in. Trust me I use to be a one of those and with that being said you’re looking at about 3 hours or MORE of daily activity on social media per user and I’m referring to Facebook alone! Just imagine how much more time is spent on the other sites. There are so many things that easily lead you back to your accounts. The most common are,
- Tagging yourself to places you’ve visited, many businesses encourage you to follow their page.
- Sharing photos of what you’re eating/drinking, a lot of phones automatically pull your location now after taking a photo, so you can easily share it on your favorite site.
- Sharing interesting moments, or things that have happened throughout your day to your friends.
- Sharing links and sites through automatic social media buttons.
We’re in a new generation and technology has evolved tremendously in the last few years and I think that’s amazing! The fact that we’re able to communicate with tons of people all around the world within seconds, is definitely a great privilege! It’s convenient and there’s so much to explore. It’s easier now for Businesses, Writers, and Musicians etc. to create exposure on social media, to get their best work out there. However, along with those great things, there are disadvantages, and there are other not so great things that can come from spending too much time on social media. So, what happens when you’re consumed by social media? What happens when social media is not so social anymore?
Well, being able to pick and choose what the world sees can sometimes result in an Identity Crisis if you don’t prioritize your real life, you can find yourself in a very lonely place and what was once fun quickly turns into addiction and what was once authentic quickly turns into a fallacy. This is because we all have that better version of ourselves in our mind, and we all work to get there on a daily basis and although it is healthy to envision, you can begin to portray an image of yourself that is not 100% true. Which can be misleading to others and yourself and you can easily get caught up in this virtual reality, and begin to distance yourself from people in the real world, including spouses, children, friends, and family and then find it difficult to make a genuine connection. You can become stagnant and stop working at things in your real life which is horrible because if you’re not growing you’re not living. You know I don’t totally blame social media for this because we have a freedom of choice but I do think that this is a part of evolving and it’s a struggle this generation is going to have to face.
Studies have shown that social media has become the leading cause of divorce and depression; I can see why. People are investing so much time into creating the perfect status and having the most friends, the most likes and the best-filtered pictures and not enough time into their real life (Real Mind, Body and Soul). They start to completely shut out everyone around them and don’t take the time to disconnect so they can cherish that quality time at home with family, which can most definitely lead to affairs on both ends. And if at any moment they feel threatened or they aren’t getting attention or satisfaction from their life, then they just run online and seek approval and to them, it’s like “I know who I am, I’m loved online” but the question is do they know who they are offline? Are they making real accomplishments, are they making healthy decisions? Or Are they jeopardizing everything for a virtual reality?
I’ve seen people choose social media over relationships, and claim that the other person is exaggerating, insecure, or too controlling. I’ve seen people claim to be the most positive person online and in real life they’re toxic. I’ve seen people claim to have this perfect life online and in real life, it’s not even close. So, what’s going on?? I’m not absolutely sure but I can tell you this.
In 2013 when my husband and I moved in together, I decided to deactivate all my accounts out of respect for him and our commitment but totally by choice and that’s when my journey really started; That was the best decision I could have ever made! So I went MIA, and I told myself that whoever was my real friend online would reach out to me, and would try to stay in contact and vice versa. Whoever I claimed to be online, would most definitely be who I am in real life and I would go out and make opportunities possible for me. I could spread the same amount of awareness, and make the same amount of genuine connections out in the real world. Not only did this strengthened my character, it strengthened my marriage and my relationships. I got to see my life for what it was.
My goodness and to think that I got so much criticism for doing this, people thought I had gone mad, or that maybe my husband made me do that lol. Considering I was an active user and had my fair share of positive impacts with my music, my poetry and my passion to spread light. But no this was for me, I had to validate my existence by going out into the real world! I had to remind myself that I’m a living human being with the desire to see the entire world and to experience it all first hand.
Years later, I asked my friends that were still online for an update, they showed me news feeds and stuff and I noticed that many users were still in the same spot they were back in 2013. Others had deactivated or weren’t as active. My friends stated that in reality I never missed out on anything. I’m not going to lie I would question if alienating myself was actually the best option. But then I realized I had experienced so much within those years, and learned so much about myself and didn’t feel the need to document every single thing. I found inspiration, I found a new love and drive for life and I stretched myself and found myself in situations outside my comfort zone that built my character.
So, was I spending too much time on social media? Yes, I think so, because now I see that investing those 3 hours into my real life has gotten me farther than I could have ever imagined. So my point is Social Media can be good but can most definitely be bad for you if not used with self-awareness. Respectfully, this is my perspective and may be different for others but I do encourage people to go out there and have those positive experiences! I know life gets busy, but whenever possible pick up the phone instead of shooting a text, get together as much as possible with friends and family and make those memories count because at the end of the day that’s what makes life so darn special.
Thanks for reading. Much Love!♥